Lately I have been thinking a lot about friends. What makes 2 people friends and what causes friends to part. I have lost many friends over my life. Some moved away or I moved away from them. I had a couple that died wayyyyy too young. Sometimes there are big fights, and other times we just drift apart. I have lost a couple friends to pure stubbornness both on my part and theirs. What I hate most is the friends I have lost without closure, the ones that refuse to talk things out or even tell me what I really did. I had a friend in high school I lost that way. She just turned on me for no reason.
It is like the old saying: People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed or just felt. They have come to assist you through a hard time, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, suddenly, the person disappears from your life. Your need has been met; their work is done.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share or grow or give back. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They give you great joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons—things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all your other relationships.
Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life. And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here—for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
I have many people who come into my life for reasons and seasons, but it hurts me when they part from me because I would wish all my friends be lifetimes friends. Unfortunately most people do not have the patience, tolerance, and understanding it takes to be a lifetime friend with me. Many think they can change me to suit their needs. When it does not work they become angry and leave. I have only found 1 person that has the patience understanding and tolerance to be my lifetime friend. Her name is Cindy. We met in first grade and have been friends ever sense. Cindy knows all about me the good the bad and the unreasonable and she has always stood by my side. There were times in school that it was just her and me. We were not the pretty kids. We were not the popular kids. We were not the smart kids, but we had something none of them had. We had a friend that loved us and allowed up to be who we are without questioning or condemning it. That is what makes her my lifetime friend.
