Most of us will offer a friend or family member some good advice if we see them about to make a mistake. We do not want to see our friends and family do things that would turn out badly for them. The big glitch is we can offer all the good advice we want, but if they do not take it we are actually powerless to protect them from bad decisions.
I gave a friend some really good advice the other day and even gave them a way to get what they wanted all they had to do was wait a couple weeks. It was then that he became like a smoker who was dying for a smoke. He began looking for a reason any reason to do what he had originally planned to do. That became really clear this evening when he called me, and interrupted my supper to tell he hoped I would not be mad at him because he may have to do what he had originally planned to. First I said really why would you HAVE to do it? The thing he WANTED to do in no way could be turned into and emergency. He tells me he may go to his cousins Sunday and he would need it IF he did, but here is the kicker he will not even know if his cousin will be home at all till Saturday night. So seeing that he REALLY did not want to follow my advice I told him ok go ahead and do what ever you want, you are a grown man you can make your own decisions. I really am not sure if I was more annoyed because he did not take the good advice and was looking for reasons to not take it of if I was more annoyed because he interrupted my supper.
Once you give someone good advice the rest is up to them if they take it or not. I do have one REALLY BAD habit though. If I tell something for their own good and they do not do it and then it goes just as I said it would if they did not listen to my advice, I can not help telling them I told you so. I know I really should not do that, but I can not help it when my good advice is ignored and then it turns out I was right.
I myself listen to good advice given by friends and family about 90% if the time and the other 10% I explain to them why their advice will not work.
