Have you ever heard the expression act in haste repent in leisure? All too often people will do things when they are excited or mad without really thinking them through only to find out later they have made a big mistake. By the time they have really thought their actions through it may be too late to change it or fix the damage it caused. I find myself in such a case. A while back I said something to someone when I was angry. It was not very nice, and to be honest I wanted this person to feel how hurt they had made me. I really did not expect the reaction I got from them. Instead of them fighting the problem out with me they cut me out of their life. I was not expecting that. I figured we would have a short fight maybe not talk for a couple weeks and then when we both calmed down we would finish talking the problem out and the friendship would go on after we got it all our in the open and cleared the air. That is how it has always happened with my real friends in the past. We may argue and sometimes it gets hurtful. but we were always able to put it back together later. I do not think it is possible to fix something or put it back together if someone shuts you completely out of their live. Do I wish I had not said what I said? MAYBE, but should not real friends be able to say what they really think to each other and the friendship go on? I would much rather someone tell me to my face they think I am as know it all, or that I think I am always right, or I am nosy then I would them tell someone else these things about me and me have to hear it from the other person after they have added to it and made it worse then it really was.
It is possible I lost a friend forever because of something I said in anger and in haste, but sense this person will not talk to me about it I can not rule out that just maybe they were not the great friend I have always told people they were. Without full info on the situation who is to know where the truth lies? It hurts seeing this person and not being able to talk to them we used to have so much fun together. I guess those times met more to me then they did to them, or they would not be willing to throw them away so easily. Want to hear the ironic thing? The person I miss will probably never see this, but as with all my blogs I write them for me, to get my emotions out.
jane_and.the_dragon
Connesso:
Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are, your reputation is who people think you are.
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